Self-Control

 The 9th and last Fruit of the Spirit is "Temperance or Self-Control".
   A better way of wording this is "Self controlled by the Holy Spirit." We all have areas in our life that that we have a hard time dealing with and controlling: Temper, Anger, Sin Temptations, Fear, Worry, Anxiety, Doubt... In our self there is no way of controlling these things. They are way bigger and stronger than we are. But the great news is that God is even greater and through His Holy Spirit He can give us victory and strength over these areas of our life.
    With kids we use the illustration of a plateful of cookies that are on the table and no one is around. Who is going to know if you have just one, even though you have been told to leave them alone. Who can "resist" warm, fresh out of the oven, chocolate cookies that smell just heavenly. The temptation or problem is much bigger than we are.
   Through the Holy Spirit and God's Word He gives us the strength to say no to the cookies or to other temptations. He also helps us deal with other things that want to control our lives. he can give us victory over Fear, Worry, Doubt, anger, etc...
#1: Admit you have a problem
#2: Turn to the Lord and ask His Help.
#3: Turn to God's Word, Bible for instruction and help.